Abuser?

Are you being Abusive? 
Here is our checklist:

1. Coercion and Threats

   • I threaten to harm my partner, themselves, or others to get them to comply.

   • I use threats related to legal or custody issues to manipulate them.

   • I threaten to expose personal or embarrassing information.

2. Intimidation

   • I use intimidating gestures, looks, or actions to control or scare my partner.

   • I make my partner feel afraid through my physical presence or behavior.

   • I destroy property or harm pets to frighten my partner.

3. Emotional Abuse

   • I belittle, criticize, or insult my partner to undermine their self-esteem.

   • I make my partner feel worthless, guilty, or ashamed.

   • I manipulate or play mind games with my partner.

4. Isolation

   • I prevent my partner from seeing friends, family, or engaging in social activities.

   • I restrict their ability to make independent decisions or access support.

   • I monitor or control their communication with others.

5. Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming

   • I downplay or deny the abuse, making it seem insignificant.

   • I blame my partner for my abusive behavior or the problems in the relationship.

   • I make my partner feel responsible for my actions or for fixing the relationship.

6. Economic Abuse

   • I control or restrict my partner’s access to money or financial resources.

   • I force my partner to ask for money or account for every expense.

   • I sabotage their employment or financial independence.

7. Using Children

   • I use our children as a means to control or manipulate my partner.

   • I make threats regarding the custody or well-being of our children.

   • I use the children to relay messages or create conflict with my partner.

8. Using Male Privilege (for heterosexual relationships)

   • I enforce traditional gender roles or use my gender to dominate.

   • I expect my partner to conform to specific roles or behaviors because of their gender.

9. Physical and Sexual Violence

   • I engage in physical violence such as hitting, slapping, or choking.

   • I coerce or force my partner into sexual activities against their will.

   • I create an environment where my partner feels physically unsafe.

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