Victim?

Are you being abused?
Here is our check list:

1. Coercion and Threats

   • Does your partner threaten to harm you, themselves, or others if you don’t comply with their demands?

   • Are you threatened with loss of custody of children or legal consequences?

   • Have you been threatened with revealing personal or embarrassing information?

2. Intimidation

   • Does your partner use gestures, looks, or actions that are meant to intimidate or scare you?

   • Are you afraid of their physical presence or behavior?

   • Does your partner destroy property or harm pets to frighten you?

3. Emotional Abuse

   • Does your partner belittle, criticize, or insult you to undermine your self-esteem?

   • Are you made to feel worthless, guilty, or ashamed?

   • Does your partner play mind games or manipulate you emotionally?

4. Isolation

   • Does your partner prevent you from seeing friends, family, or engaging in social activities?

   • Are you restricted from making independent decisions or accessing outside support?

   • Does your partner monitor or control your communication with others?

5. Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming

   • Does your partner downplay or deny the abuse, making you feel like it’s not a big deal?

   • Do they blame you for their abusive behavior or the problems in the relationship?

   • Are you made to feel responsible for their actions or for fixing the relationship?

6. Economic Abuse

   • Does your partner control or restrict your access to money or financial resources?

   • Are you forced to ask for money or account for every expense?

   • Does your partner sabotage your employment or financial independence?

7. Using Children

   • Is your partner using children as a means to control or manipulate you?

   • Are threats made regarding the custody or well-being of your children?

   • Is there a pattern of using the children to relay messages or create conflict?

8. Using Male Privilege (for heterosexual relationships)

   • Does your partner enforce traditional gender roles or use their gender as a reason to dominate?

   • Are you expected to conform to specific roles or behaviors because of your gender?

9. Physical and Sexual Violence

   • Have you experienced physical violence such as hitting, slapping, choking, or other forms of physical harm?

   • Are you coerced or forced into sexual activities against your will?

   • Do you feel physically unsafe or threatened in your home?

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